A bunch of things *happen* in MIT. They
occur because people make them find. MIT tends to get off this idea that there
are things you can’ ’t do. People get new accomplishments like pebbles off the
beach. They will do this because MIT teaches you how to teach, and so places
you in the group of people who all know things that you don’ ’t learn. And
chances exist, you also learn matters that they don’ ’t learn! And when you
move all those people together, you make the bunch of people who do things
happen. They go together and somebody says, “ what if we got a roller coaster?
” Or “ what if we got the the cappella set? ” Or “ how can we help better
mental state matters in our community? ” And everyone says, “well, why not? ”
And they start and do it occur.
Things do happen, right? It's impossible
that nothing good has ever happened to someone. Good things (and bad things)
happen to all people all the time. So how do they happen? They happen because
we make them happen. We think them, we do things that contribute to them
happening and they happen. Then why can't we make hope happen? Why can't we
make happiness happen? The answer is that we can. Sometimes, we just choose not
to. Hope is always out there, hanging, waiting for you to grab onto it. Every
situation you're in, hope will get you through. You can apply it to every life
situation and my words will hold true. It could be a job interview, a failing
relationship, a mental health issue, a project you have to complete/work on, a
friendship you want to cultivate further, it could even be a life threatening
situation, hope is always there to assist you, guide you and support you.
GREAT days happen when good things
happen. And there is a great chance of good things happening with or from a
fellow human. Maybe I'll meet someone who will make my day. I might be rescued
by a stranger. I might meet a person that will shift my paradigms. I might meet
a person that will make me feel grateful for my blessings. Heck i might even
stumble on my future employer before even applying. Don't be that guy who makes
a bad impression before formally meeting a person. Be kind and good things will
come.
As for me, I don't make things happen.
Things happen around me; and I respond to them with as much presence I can. At
first I struggled with this: I wanted to be a shaper, an initiator. But I've
learned that my magic happens when I'm responding to things: events, ideas,
people's needs; when I'm available for something mysterious and unexpected to
happen. Not when I'm forcing something into being that I've already decided on
in advance.
If you make bad decisions, bad things
will happen. These understandings enable the child to take control of his life.
I am responsible for every decision I make. If I make bad decisions, bad things
will happen. By the way, it's bad things will happen sooner or later. One of
the things you have to get across to children, be- cause they are short-term
oriented, is that bad things will not always happen right away. That doesn't
mean a bad thing isn't going to happen. If you're my age, you realize that at
the age of 53 it is possible for something bad to begin happening because of
something you did when you were 20.
Embrace change. Make change intentional.
Don’t let things happen, make them happen. Don’t be afraid to tear down the
current way of doing things and replace it with something new. Think ahead.
Expect bumps in the road and, at the same time, keep the vision
front-and-center. Be prepared to make tough decisions. Continuously evaluate
success. Establish Key Performance Indicators (KPIs) that should be reported
and tracked. Keep the end-goal in mind. Think critically about whether actions
and results are driving the vision forward. Look at every aspect of the
business for improvement – people, processes and operations.
All children want to do the right thing,
but sometimes they need the freedom to make their own mistakes. Make it safe
for them to explore this with you. ‘I know these things can happen sometimes.
Can you talk to me about how this happened?’ Explore what they’ve learnt or
what they might do differently next time. You don’t have to fix anything. Just
be a steady presence and give them the space to figure things out by.
Remember earlier, when I said that power
is the ability to make things happen? Well, you must be intentional in order to
make things happen. Powerless people sit around and wait for things to happen;
powerful people make things happen. Power only shows up when you make a demand
on it. Whatever measure of power you currently have, use it. When that measure
is exhausted, more will become available.
Ariana Huffington says that "life
is a dance between making things happen and letting things happen". I have
been an Olympic pro at making things happen but not so stellar at letting
things happen. It might be a symptom of the an inflated sense of agency, but
actively letting things happen is also just a terrifying act of surrender,
regardless. At least we have pretty boy Ashton Kutcher's reassuring words:
"As long as you're uncomfortable, it means you're growing."
Life numbing barriers in decision making
is the idea of allowing someone else to make the decision for you. This occurs
in a more subtle form when people wait for things to happen as opposed to
making them happen. It allows people not to have to take responsibility for
themselves and for what occurs. Some of the available decision making models
are themselves decision making barriers. The models may seem rational and
sensible but they may not necessarily reflect how humans actually make
decisions. With the result that after a few poor decisions, the decision-maker
loses confidence and makes decisions reluctantly, if at all.
Motivation is an attitude - it's a
spirit of continual enthusiasm. Motivation is an attitude of going for it.
'Let's make things happen!' is how leaders think. Leaders don't wait to see
what will happen; they make things happen. In order to keep ourselves in the
'can-do' and 'do-it-now' attitude, we have to continually fill our motivation
tank with all the motivators we can lay our hands on. Surrounding ourselves
with positive people who believe in what we're doing and who encourage us fills
the motivation tank. Make efforts to make things happen.
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